Foolproof Method to Determine Importance

What's Important to Someone Else Should be as Important to You, As That Person is to You

How Do You Measure Importance?
Are you in a relationship?  If yes - then way to go!  If not, do you have friends and family?  Coworkers?  Do they ever ask you to do things that you don't want to?  Do they like things that you don't?  If you answered yes to either of these questions, then you're in great company.  About 6.79 billion people also will answer yes (or approximately thereabouts). 

And I will tell you a secret.  Although 6.79 billion people answered yes, they also say that it bothers them - because they feel what's important to them should be important to you.  Well, at least the really important stuff.  But, how do you measure importance?

The Secret Sauce of Importance
Well, if you have any desire to maintain these relationships - or better yet - to improve them, then you need to take on a new attitude, or perhaps a new philosophical mental attitude is a better way to put it.

You need to tell yourself and then live by the philosophy that: "What's important to someone else should be as important you, as that person is to you."  If you do, I promise that you will be liked more, have more influence, and in turn - increase your happiness (as well as that of many many others).

Enthusiastically scribbled by, 

Jason Riemens

How to Win Friends and Influence People

The book that has had the most influence on my life and that has had the greatest practical impact - meaning that I use what I read the most - is Dale Carnegie’s, How to Win Friends and Influence People.  It discusses the fundamental techniques in handing people, how to win people to your way of thinking, ways to make people like you, and how to be a leader.

It is all common sense, but as we all know, common sense is not always common practice.  It is not a business book, a relationship book, or a self-help book.  It is a life book - my life has been changed forever by it - and hopefully I have helped others improve their lives because of it as well.

Below I list out the principles of the book in anticipation that they that will inspire you to action.  What action?  Any positive action...but reading the book would be a great start.

FUNDAMENTAL TECHNIQUES IN HANDLING PEOPLE

PRINCIPLE 1
Don’t criticize, condemn, or complain.

PRINCIPLE 2

Give honest and sincere appreciation.

PRINCIPLE 3
Arouse in the other person an eager want.

HOW TO WIN PEOPLE TO YOUR WAY OF THINKING

PRINCIPLE 1
The only way to get the best of an argument is to avoid it.

PRINCIPLE 2

Show respect for the other person’s opinions.  Never say, “You’re wrong.”

PRINCIPLE 3

If you are wrong, admit it quickly and emphatically.

PRINCIPLE 4

Begin in a friendly way.

PRINCIPLE 5

Get the other person saying “yes, yes” immediately.

PRINCIPLE 6

Let the other person do a great deal of the talking.

PRINCIPLE 7

Let the other person feel that the idea is his or hers.

PRINCIPLE 8

Try honestly to see things from the other person’s point of view.


PRINCIPLE 9

Be sympathetic to the other person’s ideas and desires.

PRINCIPLE 10

Appeal to the nobler motives.

PRINCIPLE 11

Dramatize your ideas.

PRINCIPLE 12

Throw down a challenge.

SIX WAYS TO MAKE PEOPLE LIKE YOU

PRINCIPLE 1

Become genuinely interested in other people.

PRINCIPLE 2

Smile.

PRINCIPLE 3

Remember that a person’s name is to that person the sweetest and most important sound in any language.

PRINCIPLE 4

Be a good listener.  Encourage others to talk about themselves.

PRINCIPLE 5

Talk in terms of the other person’s interests.

PRINCIPLE 6

Make the other person feel important – and do it sincerely.

BE A LEADER

PRINCIPLE 1

Begin with praise and honest appreciation.

PRINCIPLE 2

Call attention to people’s mistakes indirectly.

PRINCIPLE 3

Talk about your own mistakes before criticizing the other person.

PRINCIPLE 4

Ask questions instead of giving direct orders.

PRINCIPLE 5

Let the other person save face.

PRINCIPLE 6

Praise the slightest improvement and praise every improvement. 
Be “hearty in you approbation and lavish in your praise.”

PRINCIPLE 7

Give the other person a reputation to live up to.

PRINCIPLE 8

Use encouragement.  Make the fault seem easy to correct.

PRINCIPLE 9

Make the other person happy about doing the thing you suggest.



Make everybody you talk to feel important and appreciated!

Enthusiastically scribbled by, 
Jason Riemens